New Year, New Days

I rang in 2014 surrounded by all things wonderful. With my hubby.  Friends. Laughter. Dancing. Love.

The New Year is full of possibilities and unknown potential. It is full of energy and light. No wonder we celebrate it every year. Its like closing a chapter and then getting started on a new clear one.

What if we can celebrate everyday like that? What if each day was like a new year? What if we threw ourselves a celebration at the end of each day and the beginning of the next one?

Every single day is worthy of a celebration. Everyday is the start of something fresh and new. Let’s dive into that knowing not just once per year but every single day. Everyday is truly extraordinary. Happy New Year and Happy New Day.

New Year. New Day. New Possibilities.

xo

K

The Last Day and Onwards: Reverb13, Day 21

It’s so hard to believe that Reverb13 is coming to an end. What a lovely journey it has been this time around. Special thanks to Kat McNally for making all of this possible and putting so much time, love, and effort into making Reverb13 happen!

Reverb13, Day 21 Prompt:

Today, I’d like you to revisit what you wrote on 1 December on the first day of Reverb13. How does that compare to where you are now?

Then, without thinking too hard about it, grab a pen and some paper and finish the following five sentences:

2014 is going to be MY YEAR because…

In 2014, I am going to do…

In 2014, I am going to feel…

In 2014, I am not going to…

In December 2014, I am going to look back and say…

On the first day of Reverb13, I was just recovering from a cold (read the full post here) and waiting to get my new week started on a healthier more energetic note. Ultimately I was excited and ready to step into the new year more grounded in my truth and my fullness.  Now, after 21 days I just realized that I was taking lots of leaps and steps into my truth. Since that post I clarified some goals for myself and started working on my first offering of 2014. I also shared my prompts on my blog and embraced the support and community from my fellow Reverb13 buddies. During Reverb I shined and danced just as I am hoping to keep doing in 2014.  Writing and reflecting over these past 21 days has opened me up even more to the dance of life.

2014 is going to be MY YEAR because… I’m going to build upon this strong foundation that was built in 2013 and shine. I will step into my starring role and live a life that absolutely love with open eyes and and an open heart.

n 2014, I am going to do…more things that make my heart absolutely sing and soar. 

In 2014, I am going to feel…Excited. Pure Joy. Grounded. Clear.

In 2014, I am not going to…Complain as I go through the journey. I’m also not going to stay beyond the present moment. 

In December 2014, I am going to look back and say…I’m celebrating going full time with my creative business. I feel like I’m living even more of my dreams. 

Thanks for being on this journey with me. Onward and Upward.

xo

K

 

Forward: Reverb 13, Day 20

Forward is the only direction.

The mirror never lies, but everything in it is backwards. 

Look at what you see in the mirror. How does it change if you view yourself with eyes that can only look forward?

I see a woman ready to take more leaps, scared a bit, but a twinkle in her eye. I see years of learning and growth that have brought her to this moment , which will bring her to more moments of realization and actualization.

I see a woman who has grown comfortable in her own skin. Who has fully accepted and embraced her body- her beautiful brown skin, the curves, the natural hair. Taking it all in and loving that which makes her unique.

I see a woman standing taller, feet planted with glimmers of light in her eyes.

I see me. In this mirror simply being:  Vulnerable. Ready. Accepting. Unapologetic. Free.

xo

K

 

Wildly Trusting: Reverb13, Day 17 Prompt

Reverb13, Day 17 Prompt:

What word did you select to be your travelling companion in 2013? What gifts did this word bring?

What word will you choose to guide you through 2014? What do you hope it will bring into your life?

My word for 2013 was Wild. I deeply desired to follow more of my passions and feel energized by whatever I was doing. It’s funny how though I didn’t keep that word in front of me consciously, the intention seeped into my activities. I danced more. I laughed more. I went to concerts, visited new places, and had all out, not thinking of the time, experiences with those that were close to me. Heard often was “I didn’t know Kandice had that in her.” And the that was this ball of divine energy that I had been holding back. In essence, it helped me find more authentic connections and is helping me realize the connections that don’t serve me like I thought they did. I plan to get more wild in 2014!

With that wildness, my word for 2014 is Trust. In 2013, I started to trust my gifts and instincts. This year I am diving deeper into trusting myself and letting go of the second guessing. Trusting that I know what I want. Trusting that I am divinely guided. Trusting that I can make my writing and speaking a full time business. Trusting that I can cultivate healthy boundaries. Deep, wild, exciting trust that will bring me connection, abundance, and fulfilled dreams.

xo

K

And on the topic of trusting, I feel a nudge to make this announcement about my first product for 2014!

On January 8th, I will be launching my e-book/guide: Everyday Experiences, Extraordinary Experiences: 21 Days Noticing, Reflecting, and Learning. 

Everyday is Extraordinary if we only notice. My intention is that by sharing the lessons I have learned, it will encourage you to take a deeper look at the subtle and sometimes mundane experiences of life because they are whispering to us all of the time. The book will guide you through 21 days of noticing with true stories and heartfelt prompts. May we learn to see the beauty that is presented to us in every moment.

If you want to be the first to know when it launches, then click here to get on the list (I will only send updates about the ebook!) or follow my blog!

Healthier Conversations: Reverb13, Day 16

Reverv13, Day 16 Prompt:

Habits and addictions, some are silly, some serious; when we have issues without answers, they can hold us so tight that we stop moving forward with the life we intended.

Were you able to loosen those fetters this year, and if you were successful, how did you manage it? Did you accept outside help, or work alone?

If you still feel that grasp of addiction or hurtful habits, what will you do differently in the year to come?

This year I became more aware that I was really addicted to really negative, gossip like conversation. It was like eating a lot of potato chips: tasted good going down, but didn’t leave me feeling nourished or fulfilled. I really didn’t start think about actually doing something about it until last month because you know what I had become really comfortable having conversations with people in that way. It felt foreign to talk about anything else and I would use the excuse of “We are just chilling out and relaxing.” Yet, I noticed that conversation after conversation would quickly turn from gossip to outright mean and super critical. Silly, funny gossip was the gateway for biting criticism and judging. I could even feel the shift when I was with friends. It would start off as laughing and giggling and then end up feeling exhausting and harsh.

I remember after one particularly scathing session, a friend of mine texted everyone and apologized. That was when I knew I had to make a change to because we were all part of the issue. Even sitting there in silence made me a part of this pattern. With the help of my husband I decided to do a 21 day challenge and not complain and we would support each other in our 21 day challenge. It originally started off as not complaining about my day job, but then it started to take root in other areas of my life. I found myself trying really hard to keep up conversation that actually made me feel good.

I’m at the point now where I have to learn how to deepen conversations even more but know that this will come with time and practice as I do it more in 2014.

What I know for sure is that habits that we don’t like so much can be changed if we commit to making really small shifts in our thoughts and actions.

Here’s to healthier conversations in 2013.

xo

K

 

 

Open to the Possibilities: Reverb13, Day 14

Reverb13, Day 14 Prompt

What was the best decision you made in 2013? What were the results? How will you continue the good work in 2014?

The best decision I made was to move into a 325 sq foot studio with my husband. I was nervous at first because I wasn’t sure we could get rid of so much stuff or deal with each other in that small space, but the results were worth the initial doubt. What resulted was that me and my husband rid ourselves of a lot of physical clutter, but also of emotional clutter as well. I was able to do more things that I wanted because of the money that was saved. We took more road trips, went to concerts, and other great things. And now that I think about it, it really brought me and my husband together in a deeper way too. You can’t run away from someone in that small of a space and have to deal with issues head on. I came to a realization about what really matters in life and the  grand scheme of things.

In 2014, I’m not sure if we will stay in this space once our lease ends, but I will continue in this spirit and continue to take risks so that I can do more of what I want in life. I will keep looking at things from a different perspective and staying open to all of the possibilities.

xo

K

 

 

Making Magic: Reverb13, Day 13

Reverb13, Day 13, Prompt:

The phrase “It takes a village” is often bandied about, in reference to child-rearing, running a business, just about everything. But if you’re anything like me, you may not be a natural born collaborator.

In 2014, how could you explore what community means to you?

It might be a question of sharing the load, asking for help or signing on someone with a complementary skill set. Or it could be about a creative collaboration that pushes you to explore new ideas and media.

Where might the alchemy be?

There is a lot of power in community. This year I found that I really dug into community online via social media, blogs, online courses with groups and forums..and what a rich experience that was and continues to be for me.  This time I want to dig even deeper and develop more in person community  in addition to the cultivating my virtual community as well.

Next year this will look like attending in person events like book clubs, cultural events, and meetups. I also want to push myself to have more meaningful, engaging conversations that go beyond what is on the surface. I would like to meet new people who push me to think differently. This is where the magic lies and I intend to experience more of that magic in 2014.

xo

K

Getting Muddy: Reverb13, Day 12

Reverb13, Day 12 Prompt:

I’m a big fan of muddy experiences. They become our greatest teachers when we’re wise enough to exfoliate with them; roll around in the deep until we finally feel ready to get clean. 
Today, identify something muddy that kept recurring for you throughout 2013, and then ask yourself this: What’s the clear truth underneath this damn mud if I finally wash myself clean?

 This year I found myself getting muddy in the experience of doing too much many things at one time. Time and time again I followed this pattern: I would start with a spacious calendar, then slowly but surely say yes too one to many things which I would attempt to do but then crash and burn. This usually was me breaking down and having a melt down, getting physically sick, or feeling super depleted. Time and time again, I did this. Time and time I got muddy and now I’m ready to come clean.

Underneath all of that mud is the truth that it is ok for me to breathe. That it is ok to say no so that I can keep my tank full. That it is ok to have lots of space and only I can give myself that permission, not anyone else. I get to choose how my life goes. More than anything, my being is far more important than the relentless doing.

In 2014, I’m giving myself even more breathing room. More wide open spaces to roam freely. Less packed schedules and more freedom to embrace the spaciousness that my soul desires.

More Being. Less Busy. Full Heart.

xo

K

On Challenges and Trusting: Reverb13, Day 11

Reverb13, Day 11 Prompt:

What challenges lie ahead in 2014? How might you meet them boldly?

The challenge that lies ahead for me is getting my business up and running so that it can support me full time. For the past 2 years I have tried, failed, and tried again, even taken a break on things. I have gotten discouraged and even a bit complacent when things haven’t gone how I wanted.

Going into 2014 feels different. I have a different excitement, motivation, and clarity about moving forward and seeing this through so that I can realize my entrepreneurial ambition full time. It’s time.

Meeting those challenges boldly and confidently is the key and I know the first way is to own what I do which is this: I’m a writer, speaker, and teacher who is on a mission to help people make everyday extraordinary so that they can be their best self right now. I have been grounding into that and being more confident about the title, which feels good to me. In 2014, I will be creating more products and launching them into the world in heartfelt ways. I will stay positive and keep gratitude at the center of every experience and every lesson that I learn.

The biggest thing will be for me to trust myself, trust the vision I have, and trust the wisdom that is pulsating through me. If I do that in 2014, I know that those challenges will lead to a greater realization of my dreams.

xo

K

Inspiration: Reverb13, Day 9

Reverb13, Day 9 Prompt:

Who inspired you in 2013? And why?

What gifts did they give you? And how will you carry these forward in to 2014?

This year my husband inspired me. We both through went through a lot of transition this year.  He was right there supporting me and encouraging me through as he was going through the fire too. He kept his eye on the prize and didn’t waver when things were looking shaky.  He gave me the gifts of patience and wisdom when I sometimes couldn’t see the silver lining. He sees the world in a much different way from me and I appreciate his perspective even if I don’t always tell him that.

Above and beyond that, he gave me the gift of boldness and tenacity through his example of living life the way he wants even when it can get tough.  I will carry this forward into 2014 as I continue to live life more boldly and unapologetically.

Thanks Terron. I love you.

xo

 

K