Vulnerability and Writing: Broken and Dry

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I was preparing a recipe that called for the juice of half a lime. I had half a lime on my counter that had been sitting overnight. The skin and outer pulp was quite dry.  I tried to squeeze the lime and the skin started to crack. I cut it  into quarters attempting to give it one more try. I was almost done with dinner and really didn’t feel like going up to the store for one ingredient.   I gave it a hard sqeeze and juice started to flow out.

I am reminded that underneath the broken,  cracked pieces of our lives flows a river of inspiration.  Beneath our deferred dreams and abandoned hope is life. Within the deserts of our lives exists comfort for our thirst in the most unlikely places. Sometimes we have to squeeze a little harder and dig in deeper to feel the fertile soils.

What is longing  to burst out and blossom from your soul?

 

Xo

K

 

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Talking about “All or Nothing” over at Having Time.com

This week, I am over at Havingtime.com, a wonderful inspirational site ran by Lesya Li!

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I was really honored when Lesya asked me to contribute a guest post and am excited to share with you!

Head on over to Having Time and find out why the “all or nothing” approach doesn’t work, as well as ways to get out of a burn out rut. Let me know what you think.

Here’s to a wonderful week!

xo

K

Letting Go and Getting Over: Cultivate14, Day 2

Day 2 prompt for Cultivate 2014:

Tell us about a time when you’ve been heartbroken, angry, or even just annoyed. Tell us about something you just can’t seem to let go of or get over. Spread that grievous infection all around, and thin it out. Really lay into it. We’ll all feel better in the long run.

 

I quit teaching elementary full time back in June of 2011 with the intention to jump start my writing and consulting. My eyes were on being a creative entrepreneur and being paid to do what absolutely love. Over 2 years later, I am back working full time but not as a teacher. I actually have a lot more flexibility in this current position and get to telecommute some days, but it’s still a full time job. I continue to write and work at it, but you know what it’s ok to say that it is going a lot slower than I thought. 

I am still on that path towards creative entrepreneur and the journey has been winding and surprising. Now I feel like I can truly exhale, let go, and dive in to 2014.

xo

K

Getting Muddy: Reverb13, Day 12

Reverb13, Day 12 Prompt:

I’m a big fan of muddy experiences. They become our greatest teachers when we’re wise enough to exfoliate with them; roll around in the deep until we finally feel ready to get clean. 
Today, identify something muddy that kept recurring for you throughout 2013, and then ask yourself this: What’s the clear truth underneath this damn mud if I finally wash myself clean?

 This year I found myself getting muddy in the experience of doing too much many things at one time. Time and time again I followed this pattern: I would start with a spacious calendar, then slowly but surely say yes too one to many things which I would attempt to do but then crash and burn. This usually was me breaking down and having a melt down, getting physically sick, or feeling super depleted. Time and time again, I did this. Time and time I got muddy and now I’m ready to come clean.

Underneath all of that mud is the truth that it is ok for me to breathe. That it is ok to say no so that I can keep my tank full. That it is ok to have lots of space and only I can give myself that permission, not anyone else. I get to choose how my life goes. More than anything, my being is far more important than the relentless doing.

In 2014, I’m giving myself even more breathing room. More wide open spaces to roam freely. Less packed schedules and more freedom to embrace the spaciousness that my soul desires.

More Being. Less Busy. Full Heart.

xo

K

Are You Faking It More Than You Are Making It?

You ever hear someone say,” Fake it ’til you make it!”? 

I know that I have. I also find myself saying it,too.  I often wonder though:  is that totally true?

I mean, what if you are doing more faking it, then actually making it?

It has become quite common to equate “fake it ’til you make it” with being positive and optimistic. Now, I am all for positivity but I am also dedicated to vulnerability and truth. I believe that if we  take a second look at fake it ’til you make it, it can actually yield more joy than we ever imagined.

If you feel like you are doing more faking and less making, then here are 3 thing worth considering.

Stop and Acknowledge. It’s perfectly fine to say something isn’t working. It’s ok to say you are feeling impatient, confused, or frustrated. Sometimes in “fake it until we make it” mode, we can forget to just acknowledge what is true and real at the moment. It’s not about a right or wrong thing. It’s about a truth thing. When we move towards truth, we ultimately move towards love. Moving towards love moves us towards peace, joy, and all thing abundant.

Ask for help. Let’s say things are not going the way you wanted. You’re working on confidence but still feel terrified inside. You are putting your best foot forward in business but still have no clients. Ask for help. Seek out assistance. Faking it ’til you Make it, doesn’t mean pretending like you don’t need help. Who knows what that request will get you? Who knows what simple piece of advice/help/assistance can bring bigger results than you ever imagined?

Reflect and Evaluate. Many times, unconscious beliefs and thoughts that were formed long ago, are still running the show. It’s often why we find ourselves in the same situation over and over again, scratching our heads wondering why. Maybe you are “not making it” because you have to let go of some thought or some block that is sabotaging all your great effort. Give yourself some time to let those thoughts and fears come up so you can move on through them. You may need to work with someone to uncover them, but trust me it is worth the investment.

You were born to make it. Born to thrive not merely survive. Here is too less faking it and more making it, my friend!

Love and Light,

Kandice

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