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Take Another Step: How to stay committed to your creative dreams

Dear Love,

I want to say congratulations.  You just took the first step and took action on your creative dream.  You wrote the first page. You bought the supplies. You signed up for that class. You said yes.

But that exciting feeling has worn off leaving you frustrated and struggling to stay the course.

How do you keep going when it seems like life is conspiring against you in the form of wacky schedules, inevitable responsibilities, fatigue, and everything in between?  How to do you take another step after getting off track?

First things first, celebrate yourself more. Celebrate each step that you do take. If you got up and could only write for 5 minutes, celebrate like it’s New Years.  If you get off track, but then get started again: celebrate. Surround each step with joy and it will feel easier to take another one.

Accept when things don’t go your way.  Clear that funky energy by simply just accepting what is really going on in life. “ I didn’t do it because I had to run errands and that’s ok.”  Full on acceptance comes with so much ease so you can move onward without any shame or guilt.

Remember that being  stuck in a rut with your creative dreams does not mean you aren’t passionate.  Quite the contrary. Usually the most worthwhile endeavors have moments where it feels impossible to complete according to Steven Pressfield’s book ,War of Art. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your creative pursuit. It just means you are normal and deal with resistance. You are definitely not alone in that my friend.

Most importantly, shower yourself with lots of love. The world can be so harsh and we can be so hard on ourselves about everything.  Giving yourself more love leaves leaves you feeling more inspired in every facet of my life. You can show up for yourself when you are in a loving space to do so. Constantly remind yourself of how loved you are. Set an alarm on your phone or find a few affirmations to repeat daily. Keep that love on your mind as you navigate the choppy waters of life and pursue your creative dreams.

Here’s to a million more steps and an eternity of loving each and every minute of it.



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Kandice Cole is a writer, personal development teacher, and founder of Vulnerability is Sexy. Her mission is to empower people to live unapologetic lives right now. Kandice is the author of several personal development guides the creator of the Love Letter Club.   She recently moved to Houston, Texas with her husband and enjoys road trips, songwriting, and reading novels in her spare time. Visit to learn more about her work.


27 thoughts on “Take Another Step: How to stay committed to your creative dreams”

  1. This is wonderful! I love that you are reminding us to celebrate! Your love letter club is incredibly enticing. 🙂

  2. Kandice, I loved your post! It really spoke to me, especially the celebrate part. I think women constantly think it’s bad to celebrate who we are and it’s not! If we don’t value ourselves, we don’t have much to give to anyone else. Thanks for the reminder.

  3. I love the tips on celebrating small successes. It’s easy to focus on where you’re not feeling inspired and get completely stuck.

  4. Yes, we need to celebrate more. The mind is too hung out on the negative, self love and celebration are key to break the habit of looking for the wrong in everything.

  5. Great article Kandice. Love how you reminded us to celebrate ourselves and each step along the way. Simply remembering to do this as often as possible I believe is a huge key to helping us continue to move forward. We are able to focus on what’s working and interject more of it into our lives and creative path to help propel us forward.

  6. Kandice this was so needed. I was thinking about this the other day. This is so important. First, not to give up and stay committed. Thank you so much for posting this. I actually needed the boost.

    Love & Light

    1. Denita I am so glad this boost encouraged you! Would love for you join the Love Letter Club and get daily boosts 🙂

  7. It’s so freeing to just accept that things will always come up that we need to make adjustments for in our endeavors. I think by shifting our mindset to being flexible allows us to stay motivated and move forward while enjoying whatever the journey brings.

  8. Kandice your article is exactly what I needed. Your recommendation of celebrating each step that you do take even if you only find 5 minutes at a time to write, is a struggle I have been challenged with. Sometimes I think I am not accomplishing enough and I now I feel better about celebrating what I do accomplish.


  9. Yes! I love how you were talking about celebrating every moment! Whenever I get a new client, I always go out to eat, to the movies and to Pandora to get me a new charm! I so believe in what you are talking about. I also try not to beat myself up when I don’t get things done. I am learning to let things go as well. Thanks so much for your insight and this post.

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