Procrastination is defined as: ” the avoidance of doing a task that we want to accomplish.” It is something that we all do, especially when it comes to projects and goals related to our dreams and desires. Why do we procrastinate when it comes to things that we actually want to do? The default answer is usually “I’m just lazy” or “I am just not motivated.”
I am not going to let you off the hook that easily because it is more to it than that. When we ignore why we do something, we usually keep doing it. And this keeps us stuck and not making progress on anything.
Here are a few reasons why you might be procrastinating and practical tips that will get you taking action quickly:
Reason #1: You are overwhelmed. Sometimes our goals can be overwhelming and filled with a lot of steps. Oftentimes we try to take large leaps rather than small steps. This is kind of like trying to eat an entire meal in a few large bites versus taking smaller, more manageable bites. Procrastination is often a sign that you are overwhelmed by what you are doing. How do you deal with overwhelm? Break tasks down into simple steps. When I say simple, I mean things that take 5-10 minutes. Ask yourself what can I do right now with the time I have? Then, do that one simple task.
Reason #2: You are tired. It is difficult to do anything when you are tired. When your energy is low, it is easy to have little to no desire to do anything. Consider taking some time to take care of you. Take a nap or do something else that makes you feel relaxed. Then, revisit your list of things to do.
Reason #3: You are unsure what to do next. Sometimes, you just hit a wall and can’t figure out what to do next. One of the easiest ways to overcome this block is to talk to other people. Send an email or text to a friend and ask their input. Me and two of my girls have a private facebook group where we mastermind ideas and it has made all the difference.
Reason #4: You aren’t staying present. A lot of times we think we can predict the future. In doing so, we often think the worst (not the best) about a situation and talk ourselves out of our greatness. Learn to be present with where you are and allow what is happening to unfold. Stay curious, then take another step and another. Don’t count yourself out before you begin.
Reason #5: You don’t really want to do it. We get so used to being amenable that we forget what in the world we want. Maybe you are procrastinating because it isn’t a goal that lights you up or it isn’t connected to what you really want. If this is the case, don’t stop there. Give yourself some space and time to ask “What do I really want?” The answers may surprise you.
Procrastination is really just sending us a message. If you listen, you can learn and then get into motion. You deserve to do what you want to do. What step can you take today towards that?
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